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Death: Reactions to a loss

2/25/2013

 
Grieving, death, loss, psychology, therapy
Death is well known as one of the top three traumas that a person can experience.  When a person close to you dies, the impact of the shock affects you as a "person in total".  "Person in total" means that it can affect every part of your life (or at least some parts).  Examples of these parts are:

Emotional being
- anxiousness / aggressiveness / having a bad feeling in your stomach / dry mouth / hypersensitive for noises

Physical state
- without any feelings / alone / shocked / guilty

Social state
- irritated between people (even between friends) / withdraw into yourself / want to be left alone

Thoughts
- confused / forgetful / problems to concentrate / dreaming / feels the presence of your loved one

Behaviour
- sleeping problems / restless / change in eating patterns / tearful / avoid memories of your loved one.

How to handle a grieving person:
DONT'S
- talk too much (to hide your own uncertainties)
- say things like: * God has picked the most beautiful flower in the garden; * 

- your'e parent was old, it's not so bad
- things will get better
- pull yourself together
- handle your friend different from what you did in the past (he has a need to be treated as normal)
DO'S
- Just be there: give a hug (don't say anything, because you are probably as stunned as the grieving person himself
- visit the grieving person again in future (he'll need you even more than now)
- let him know on special days, for example his loved one's birthday / Christmas, that you think of him (not just a once off)
- invite your friend for a coffee / nice outing (keep on asking - even if he refuses to go; tell him that you really want to have coffee with him)

Next time I'll talk about 7 ways to deal with your own grieving process.

Keep well!

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